With the co-ed nursery at St Anthony’s School for Boys opening its doors this September to welcome the very first batch of toddlers into its fold, we understand that levels of anxiety and excitement among parents are probably running high.

Along with the usual hustle and bustle of getting the essentials comes the more important element of preparing for the emotional and social aspects of separation and entry into an institution that may well be the one that sets out the foundation of their learning.

One of the first things to remember would be that children often feed off the anxiety that parents feel. Though it is easier said than done, remaining as calm as you possibly can will help your child settle in much faster. A good night’s sleep and not overexciting your children about their ‘first day of school’ would also probably benefit a much smoother transition into the classroom for a little one.

Rest assured that the teachers will be more than adept at handling any tantrums and tears on the day. Having the confidence that the nursery leads and staff have seen it all before and will have an innate understanding of each child’s needs will help your state of mind and as an extension your child’s as well. 

Ham & High: Richard Berlie says trust the nursery staff when sending your child to nursery schoolRichard Berlie says trust the nursery staff when sending your child to nursery school (Image: St Anthony's Boys School)

Another thing to remember is that as parents, as much as you would like to dress them up for their first day, loose, comfortable clothing that your children love (as paint and juice stained as they may be), would be a far better choice than buttons and bows, especially for their first day.

You could also consider sending them in with a toy or blanket that they may be particularly attached to as this also may ease the transition process.

Most of all, though, be positive and upbeat, don’t hang around if your child seems perfectly happy to go in and if it happens to be a nursery that does not allow a parent to stay on site, reassure your child that you will be back to pick them up and tell them that it is going to be a wonderfully fun day with lots of new toys and friends to play with.

As for the nursery at St Anthony’s School for Boys, the curriculum is informed by the EYFS (Early Years) programme and has been designed to encourage curiosity, interaction, independence and most importantly, a love of learning. It has been developed with the aim of helping children become reception ready with a focus on becoming stronger communicators and self-assured learners.

  • Richard Berlie is the headmaster at St Anthony's School for Boys in Hampstead.